Seduction

April 11, 2008

seductionThe ideal man is always looking for the woman who has real romantic tenancies, (which is most women) because this is the woman who will respond the most to typical male charm.

What men say, what they do – even the smallest things like an offhanded comment or the casual touch on the arm – can really stimulate a woman’s romantic imagination.

The real art of seduction is more than something you’re just “born with.” Art is something you can admire and learn from, it has nothing to do with natural talent.

Seduction is at its best when you pay attention to your “target.” Learning about her needs, passions, and desires will give you the leverage you need to make her attracted to you.

Who are you, really? Are you confident about yourself, your needs and desires? Do you think you are attractive? Most men have a lot less confidence in themselves than they allow others to realize.

By stepping your game up a little, and practicing some confidence enhancing techniques, you are already well on your way there – there is nothing that a lot of women find more attractive than a man who is confident (not too confident!) in himself, sexually as well as otherwise.

A ’strong’ man needs approval from no-one. He is confident in his convictions and knows when to back away without losing face. If you can remain cool and unruffled in the face of failure you will have an advantage not many other men have, because many will turn tail at the first sign of rejection, and some women have programmed themselves to play ‘hard to get’ without even trying.

Remember: Brave men won’t wive forever, but cautious ones won’t live at all!

Determine what about you others could find attractive. It doesn’t have to be your looks, it could be something about your personality.

Think about the nicest parts of yourself, whether those parts are inside or outside, a kind heart, a winning smile, a good physique – you need to learn how to capitalize on this.

We are always more critical of ourselves than others are of us. Think of what women have previously found attractive about you. Whatever it is you settle on, make that the forefront of your seduction. If you have a great smile – smile at the girl a lot. This can mean the difference between a successful seduction and a failure.

Once you’ve determined what assets you have to work with, it’s time to put them to use. Take every advantage you can get to communicate your interest and desire and get a woman’s attraction to you going. Smile at her, make strong eye contact, run your hands through your hair, make a fun joke – do whatever you have to do to bring your best, most seductive, qualities to the forefront.

Romance was mentioned in the beginning, and it’s not something to be taken lightly! Some women just love romantic gestures and others don’t.

Try and communicate your attraction to the woman without being too obvious. Forcing your interest on a girl will force her to choose whether or not she feels the same way before you’ve had a chance to lay the groundwork. You’ll want to come in under the radar and work on building interest before you make a serious move.

When seducing a woman, you have to be willing to take a chance at failing. Often times, being brave enough to flirt or say an off-color joke will give you the edge in making you stand out and heat up the interaction.

Seduction is about merging all of the senses together to leave her literally hanging onto your next move and you simply cannot seduce someone with words alone.

But don’t allow yourself to just “let things happen.” Proper seduction takes a lot of planning and premeditation to get right. That’s not to say you can rush a seduction, but you can make it so that things play out to your advantage.

Don’t rush her, let her lead, if you’ve truly seduced her she’ll probably make the first move, or let you know she’s ready and if you can follow that lead without pushing you’ve made it!

To learn more about the Art Of Seduction, be sure to check out Joseph Matthew’s website where you can get complimentary tactics and insights on seduction techniques.